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Helping Marriages In Crisis

Saturday, November 18, 2017 - 9:00am
West Ridge Community Church
3300 Encounter Ln
Elgin, IL 60124

Dr. Russ Berg the Director of Pastoral Training and Church Development at Hope for the Hurting Home will be presenting a training session at West Ridge Community Church (on Lake Street just 1/2 mile West of Randall Road in Elgin).  The training session is designed for Pastors, lay leaders, counselors, therapists and anyone who has an interest in helping couples in a crisis.  The training is designed to prepare individuals as First Responders when a marriage is on the brink of a divorce.  Trainees will be equipped to help couples back away from the brink and consider taking 6 months to seek out professional help to work at salvaging and repairing their marriage.  For Licensed Illinois therapists (LCPC, LCSW, Psychologists) you can receive 6 hours of CEU credit for this training.  Dr. Berg will be teaching on Saturday, November 18 from 9 AM until about 4:00 PM and lunch will be provided.  The cost for the training session is $99 per person.  Further information is listed below.  If interested please contact Dr. David McFadden at dpmcfadden@vccnewhope.com or text him at 630-333-3202.

The Schedule:

  • 8:30 AM   Registration
  • 9:00 AM   Start
  • 12:15 - 12:45 PM  Lunch  (Provided)
  • 4:00 PM   Training completed if not sooner.

Cost:

  • $99.00 per person

Included are the manuals and George Kenworthy’s book, Before the Last Resort.  $12.97 on Amazon http://amzn.to/2xQtky3.  Also included is a box lunch, coffee, water and snacks.

FBDC DESCRIPTION AND GOALS

The workshop teaches effective triage for highly conflicted couples from the call for help to referral to a competent counselor. Protocol language and process is presented through teaching, role play and video example. The counselor guides a crisis couple to better understand their marital distress, previous counseling, potential resources, positive memories and their options for making decisions about the future of their relationship.

The common acceptance and experience of divorce in America rests on an assumption is that once a couple begins to speak of breaking up the marriage or one spouse reaches the point of calling an attorney, divorce is inevitable.  Recent research seems to call this assumption into question. In Hennepin County, Minnesota a 2008 survey of 2400 divorcing parents indicated that as many as 30% of the spouses were open to the possibility of reconciliation and a full 10% of paired spouses indicated that neither parent wanted a divorce but felt they had no other option.  It is striking to realize that up to 40% of divorcing couples have at least one spouse that is not sure divorce is their best and only option.                

Counselors are often uncomfortable and ill prepared to offer effective interventions for what therapist John Crosby called “doing therapy with polarized couples.” Discernment Counseling is a relatively new approach for working with crisis couples that is distinct from traditional marriage counseling or psychotherapy. This intervention is designed to identify and clarify their openness to a process of reconciliation to save their marriage, utilizing a focused and disciplined series of conversations that navigate very different levels of hopefulness and motivations. 

Expected Outcomes

  1. An understanding cultural contemporary factors for marital distress and divorce
  2. Engaging the biblical message and ministry of reconciliation
  3. Provide a framework for an effective divorce intervention protocol which is informed by Scriptural principles and psychological best practices. (90 min format)
  4. Consider the prevention of unnecessary divorce (the protection of marriage) as a personal and professional value.

Participants should be able understand the unique and challenging dynamics of crisis couples work as distinct from individual therapy.

  1. Participants should be re energized and inspired to counsel from a posture of biblical hope and impartial wisdom regarding both spouses as important and needing to be heard. 
  2. Participants should acquire and develop the skill of a non-anxious and Christ-like presence with both spouses regardless of their level of hopefulness.
  3. Participants will engage and practice guiding a couple to answer one question: "Are you sure divorce in your best and only option". This will include guiding the couple in calm joint conversation and insightful individual dialogues.
  4. Participants will be able to offer the couple relevant resources for next steps as they consider the possibility of exploring the hope of reconciliation.
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South Elgin, IL - (847) 488-1999

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